Children, Family, Uncategorized

One Day She Will Roll Her Eyes At Me

one day she will roll her eyes at meWhen our first child was born, I remember looking down at her, in awe of her newness and so in love with this warm, wiggly little being. And I remember thinking that this beautiful gift from God would one day roll her eyes at me in frustration. I knew that day would come. Because she would grow and learn and develop her own opinions and thoughts about things.

And occasionally her thoughts would be in direct opposition to my thoughts. She would grow to want to be independent and the struggle between parents holding on and children wanting to let go would rage on, like a dance with all the delicacy of a bull in a china shop.

Fast forward to today. Girl child really likes to do things by herself. Not like baby girl does…spilling the cereal all over the table because she wanted to pour it herself but does not yet possess the fine motor skills to maintain accuracy when aiming for her cereal bowl. Girl child likes responsibility. She likes to do things that confirm she’s growing up. Like emptying the dishwasher herself, including the knives. She knows what’s been off limits to her until she’s old enough. And she wants to be old enough!

So, as she gains more and more independence, I wonder where I will fit in to her world. When she was fresh from God, I was completely in charge of everything for her. Now I reach into my pockets and hand over yet another thing I managed that she now can do for herself. Lord help me when she’s old enough to drive.

That’s kind of scary. Because at some point in her life, I won’t know where she is or what she’s doing. She’ll call me and check in (she better if she knows what’s good for her!). We will chat and catch up on all the stuff she’s been into. Maybe she’ll share heartbreak with me, but who knows. Maybe not. And then, she’ll hang up and go on with her life. Without me.

As we move further away from dependence, I try to remind her how family always sticks together. How we always look out for each other, no matter what. That her brother and sister are now and will forever be her closest and best friends. She will still roll her eyes every now and then but I’m trying to plant the seeds now so that later, when she needs the tree of support and faithful love and encouragement, she’ll find us all there.

 

 

 

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Encourage Each Other!

This post is for the ladies…how often do you find yourself feeling alone? Overwhelmed? Not good enough?

We should encourage each other whenever we can. Sometimes it’s hard because we are all running around all the time making sure everyone and everything else is how it should be.

Here is a free notecard you can print out and keep in your purse. When you see another woman who may look exhausted, glum, frustrated…whatever…write a quick encouraging note and give it to her!

Proverbs 31-26 NotecardPay it forward!

Here’s a link to a print-friendly version…print it out as much as you like. …and watch the site for more designs!

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Children, Family

Good from bad

So sometimes life is kind of crappy. No matter what’s going on, you just can’t seem to get above it. It just stinks. Why keep trying?

People often say ,“Why does God let bad things happen to good people?”

What a huge question…especially to those who don’t have faith or believe in the God who gave us His best.

He gave us His Son who took on the sin of the world.
Your sin and mine.
He had to look away from His own Son.
For us.

We live in a broken and fractured world, tarnished by Satan. We live in a world where Satan does all he can to ruin God-purposed lives. The bad is because of Satan. Plain and simple.

So then, why does God just “let” bad things happen if He’s so powerful? Why doesn’t He just use His power and fix it?

God doesn’t need to prove His power to us. That’s not how He wants us to choose Him. He wants us freely, despite when bad things happen.

Our free will.
Our decision to follow Him.

There’s a scripture that says “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

So when bad things happen, God makes good out of it. Bad things happen because this world is sinful. It can’t be a perfect world. That’s not God’s fault. That’s our fault. So it’s not His fault when things go bad here.

But God is loving and kind and uses bad things to make good things.

IMG_8949All bad things have side effects. Bad things can make us stronger, they can give us perspective to help others who are going through a similar situation, they can draw us closer to family.

There’s a tree in our yard that smells just horrible when the Spring comes. Sometimes I look at that tree and think it’s horrible! But recently, my little boy brought me a flower from that tree and honestly it’s beautiful.

Beautiful things come from horrible things.