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So Strong and So Mighty

So Strong and so mightyRemember the song, “My God is so big, so strong and so mighty. There’s nothing my God cannot do”?

The mountains are His, the valleys are His. The stars are His handiwork too.

Recently I got to see something that reminded me of my childhood church. I saw a Bible Study where the folks (mostly older adults…there’s something there, too) came to each other, hugged each other, checked in on each other, exchanged smiles, enjoyed a laugh, called out to each other. I couldn’t help but think that these lovely people are an example of what we have lost in our society.

These people surely had opinions on what was going on in the world, immigration issues, whether they want more gun control or not, their thoughts on the President…the list goes on. But more so, they kept it to themselves. They didn’t plaster their polarizing opinions on social media in an attempt to be the single-handed catalyst that our United States needs right now.

Looking at these people made me long for my own childhood days of church where folks just wanted to see how “your Momma and them” are doing. Where they gathered together in earnest prayer and thanksgiving.

I think of my kids.

I give them an instruction to clean the family room. Simple enough… “Just pick up your own things. Worry about yourself.”

And then, it starts. The arguing. Sometimes they argue with each other over literally the stupidest things. Oh, they seem so important to them but as the adult peering over them, I can assure you that this thing they’re arguing about is so very unimportant. Not only that, their arguments are weak and frankly riddled with logic holes. They are just too immature and busy arguing to even realize it.

I call the offending children to me and there standing before me are two kids still going at it with each other. Each thinking of how important it is that they win this argument.

strong and so mightyThis makes me think of how we look in front of our Lord. And when I say “we”, I mean the body of Christ. We bicker and argue over the nastiness of our President, gun control, violence, world issues, free enterprise, capitalism, abortion, immigration…right in front of Him. He has given us the instruction to love our neighbor as ourselves, to follow Him and to lead others to a saving knowledge of Christ. Simple enough.

Then why are we bickering with each other? Why are we debating each other? Because of all the squabbling I’ve seen and heard, I’ve not seen or heard of one person actually doing something about it other than working out the finger muscles as a keyboard jockey, spewing back-handed insults at brothers and sisters in the name of calling out injustice.

In love, of course. As if that makes it ok.

I think God is powerful enough and the Holy Spirit moves fine without our opinions. God wins in the end. God is in control. And God is enough. What if, instead of wasting time convincing the other person why he’s wrong, we got on our knees in prayer? What if we humble ourselves to the Lord and pray?

Do you think God is big enough and strong enough?

Social media, Uncategorized

Well, this is awkward!

Awkward…that’s a great word. And that’s how I feel about 64% of any given day.

Here’s another great word…well, two words. Emotional Intelligence. These words, I think, cause me to feel awkward. I hope this doesn’t come across as bragging but I have high emotional intelligence. Some question it’s mere existence, but emotional intelligence is real. It can be a really good asset, but lately I have found it to be the root of my melancholy. Emotional intelligence is a great tool when you are a leader or manager because you can better anticipate your subordinates’ needs and respond accordingly. You’ll “know” them so well and you can spread responsibilities and workloads in a way that makes those subordinates shine through their strengths and gifts. They will love you for that “sense” you have to bring out the best in them and most times they have no idea how you do it.

In a social setting, this is a totally different ballgame. I can see genuine care for others just as plainly as I can see subtle facial expressions that contradict pleasantries coming forth from another’s mouth. I can see these subtleties like I can see a billboard. And for the record, I have been tested and my accuracy is on target. It’s amazing how fleeting that facial expression is before the phony one replaces it and most can’t see it, but it’s there. Muscles have to be used to force a smile that isn’t genuine and those muscles twitch in a slightly different way than they would had they been activated by true happiness, laughter or appreciation. Eyes glance more frequently in a “hostage social situation” than they do in a mutually desired interaction.

With genuine care and interest in a person, I can see eye glimmer, focus, intensity and desire to be in the company of another. I see a tendency to draw into the other person, to connect through hugging or a simple touch.

No matter the interaction type- forced or desired- I see the clues in interactions with myself and I can see it in interactions with other parties. Sometimes it’s neat to watch and sometimes it’s painful because I can see the truth. I can read you like a book…and sometimes that book has a crappy ending.

I think social media has exacerbated awkwardness in us all…we don’t know how to be social anymore. We know wayyyyyyy too much about each other. Every opinion on every little thing. And we use that to judge whether we want to be friends with others. Social media has become the litmus test of friendship. That is sad. And I am just as guilty as anyone else.

So, here we are…knowing too much about each other, secretly annoyed by each others’ political views, quietly judging obviously bad parenting decisions we’ve noted online, generally irritated with incredibly dumb interpretations of scripture as if we are the “be all and end all” of what Jesus meant when He spoke. And then, we contradict those feelings inside with a fake smile and banter when we come in contact with each other. The depth of relationship development is gone because we are so irritated with each other. And I see all of this on the expressions of those around us.

So, here we are. Unable to depend on most “friends” because we’ve inadvertently driven them away with our own views and opinions we stupidly shared with the world through social media.

Lesson learned.

Don’t worry, my next post won’t be this dreary and this isn’t a cry for help. I just wanted to put this out there to see what you notice in your world. Carry on.